The Fair Grandmother

Our mother is the happiest person in the world when we have our new born baby, especially to our first child. As they say, grandchildren are the sweetest fruit of their labor. She is more excited than we are, I am sure. However, we might be overwhelmed with joy, and tend to overlook the possible problems in the near future, so I decided to point out some of them:

1.0 SPOILING OUR CHILD: Our first child may be her first grandchild, and the baby will be center of attraction within the family circle. She will give us all the advices she can give, based on her experience. She will even borrow the child frequently and spend so much time to baby sit. However, if you will not talk about it clearly, she has the tendency to spoil your child. Before it could happen, as a parent you have the right to agree or disagree with the way your mother treats the child. If you think your child is given too much attention and expenses, you must stop it before it is too late.

2.0 THE NEW BOSS: While we have our own ideas on how to raise our child, our mother has her own too. She may not like the way we discipline our child, the food, the clothes, etc, and before you know it, the miscommunication has began. Just like you, your mother has her pride too, and both of you want to win. Most likely, your child will be confused because he will be caught in between the situation. And the worst of it all, he will be the looser in the end. But if you analyze it deeply, both of you may be correct, and it is just a matter of agreement.

3.0 THE POOR MARTYR: If she cannot be the new boss, then she can be the opposite. And because she is sensitive, she will be upset if you will not follow what she wants. She will feel useless especially if she was the boss during her time. The next worst thing that would happen is that your child will be on his grandmother’s side, and now even your child will hate you.

It is not being unkind to tell your mother to stop, and tell her that she is wrong. You could also ask her gently to at least take some precautions. But you must be careful in mouthing your words, she is still your mother and at their age, they are a bit more sensitive than us.

Article Source:Effective Parenting Tips



November 13, 2007 at 10:39 PM

Sometimes, it's the grandmother who spoils the family, even though the grandmother is the mother we love.


November 13, 2007 at 10:43 PM

You are very right, footiam! that's why I thought of writing about it, so parents should be aware before it's too late. Thanks for the comment...