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Wives are known to do the more talking while the husband makes a good listener. But it is also unhealthy if the husband does not talk enough.
Being a good provider is not sufficient to be called a good husband. You must also know his ideas about future plans for the family, welfare of the children and most of all, his feelings for you.
Although you knew about his unique habit of silence all along, you can try some things to change him gradually. Here of some strategies that might work for you.
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How to Make a Silent Husband Talk
How to build Trust in a Marriage
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To have a happy marriage, trust is being earned, and not being bought nor being forced. The problem in building trust in a marriage is that they are two different individuals, and most of them they did not grow up together. It is only love that makes them one, and this love will not grow without complete trust. Remember that trust does not only include being faithful to your spouse, but also about everything concerning your marriage. So if you wonder how trust makes a marriage last, here are some of my thoughts.
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Worst Mistakes When You Get Married
Getting married with someone you really love makes you giggle and everything that surrounds you seems so wonderful. It looks like you will be enjoying for the rest of your life. However, marriage has its ups and downs and sometimes; we are the ones who make mistakes in the way we show our love. With this, let me share to you some of them that you must avoid.
Identity loss
There are people who are so much in love that they forget who they are. It is a nice feeling when we serve the one we love, and we always want to give all the best we can. But when you stop doing something good for yourself, then you are also starting to loose your own identity. It is not right to think that if you do it, your spouse will stop from loving you. In fact, keeping your identity will inspire your spouse to love you more.
Authority loss
Allowing your self to be controlled in everything that you do is not love. You should not be a slave in a marriage, and your spouse should not be always your master. You should use your right to speak up for your self and just follow all the instructions. Both of you should have the voice in making a decision. Do not give up your rights especially when raising your children. Marriage is not a one-man show, but rather a partnership in all aspects.
Over giving
Giving without expecting for a return is the best part of loving. In fact, this is the mystery of it. But forcing your self to give something that you can no longer give can be very harmful. Chances are you are spoiling your spouse and he will get used to it. Time will come that no matter what you give, it will still be insufficient and he will keep asking for more. Having no limit is like treating your spouse like a god. Anything that is too much can kill you.
Dependency
Having someone who will love you is a dream-come true. But this should not be your only dream. Marriage is not the only aspect in life one should enjoy. You also have to learn how to explore the world of reality. If you stop having other dreams in life besides being a better half, then your life will be revolving in one person only. Someday, you may have to live alone and you cannot do it because you already have lost your focus. Marriage is a union of two hearts.
Loving someone starts by loving oneself.
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The Buttered Househusband
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Here in the Philippines, being a househusband is not quite acceptable because it is considered as a woman’s world and the culture says that the husband must be the one to bring home the bacon. This is not an easy decision especially if the husband has the higher education than the wife. But if the couple had no other choice, here is a list of important things to consider before having problems in the future.
Make an agreement
The wife should not oblige her husband to stay at home while she will do the working. This decision must be wholeheartedly agreed by both parties. You may start by considering the future of the children. Do some computations and evaluations in order to see the advantage. It is also better to talk about the potential problems and solutions especially if the wife will work outside the country.
Make proper endorsements
Most husbands are not familiar with the exact location of kitchen wares, flat iron, and other common household tools. Proper use of washing machine, time of bathing the children and other daily activities must be properly explained by the wife to her husband. On the other hand, the husband should give tips to his wife how to work safely, short cuts and landmarks, cheap gasoline stations and other travel and working tips.
Maintain healthy communication
Make open communication. Every end of the day, couples should at least ask each other, How was your day? Give some updates on each other’s daily activity, and do not neglect to compliment each other. You can even do these during office breaks or before the wife leaves her office. She should not also bring home her problems from work. Of course, she must not forget the passion of being a wife too.
Share the money talks
Although the husband does not earn money, the wife should still consult her husband how to spend the money wisely. Do not wait for your husband to ask money for his personal needs. You may buy him some but give him also to buy his own too. Similarly, the husband should respect the bread winner. You also know how hard it is to earn money.
Make the day-off worthwhile
During Sundays, the wife should do some cooking, bonding with the children and even help with their homework. The husband should also grab the chance to do some masculine work like fixing the fence, cleaning the car, etc. Also find some time to do some male exercises like physical sports and jogging. But do not forget that just like housewives, househusband has no day-off too.
It does not matter who works, it is the reason to work that matters.
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How to Handle Professional Rivalry with your Spouse
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It is common for some college schoolmates end up marrying each another. This is because they have one thing in common, their interest in the same profession. Doctors, lawyers, and engineers are some of the professionals who have their spouses in the same field of work. Although this is advantageous to a relationship, here are some problems that may arise and what to do about it.
Professional Jealousy
Time may come that one of you will be promoted to a higher position and it may create a professional jealousy somehow. This problem often happens when the wife got promoted first. If this happens, it does not mean that the husband is a loser, it means you are a good inspiration to your wife. It is this time that she needs more support from you. Getting promoted means greater responsibilities.
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How to Survive in a Childless Marriage
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Children are precious gifts from our Creator and as they say, they are fruits of two couples in love. As others would say, a childless marriage cannot be called a family. However, there are people who are not born to enjoy this gift. This is really hard to accept especially for people who really want to have children.
But then, you love each other so much and all you wish for is to have a happy marriage. Apparently, some couples decided not to adopt a child but still were able to stay happy. So before another problem will affect your marriage, pause for a while and give time to consider some things.
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How to overcome Middle-age Crisis
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Parents who have just turned forty or a bit younger may start experiencing this problem. This is usually when the kids are grown-ups having a life of their own. They are now earning their own money and some of them probably had settled down. Now, the father and the mother are almost alone again. Consequently, these parents will experience some weird feelings inside out. Since they have been together for more than two decades as husband and wife, they feel that they have done almost everything and there will be no more improvement. Life will seem to be a daily routine. Here are some of the potential problems and how to handle them.
Lost of passion for romance
Showing affection to your spouse is vital to keep a happy marriage. Romance should always be intimate and sweet. However, as a person grows older his passion tends to reduce. That is why it is very important to keep the fire burning. Being romantic does not mean you should always be sexually active. Writing love letters, watching romantic films together and sharing sweet moments make a couple younger than their age. Find time to be alone sometimes, and visit the places where you have not yet been or simply enjoy watching the sunset together.
Physical insecurities
This usually occurs to wives after they gave birth. Her body will sag and she has no more time to fix herself regularly. She will also suffer from unbalance diet. Husbands however, will start loosing his hair and his usual body physique will drop. These physical changes may lead to insecurities and will manifest on their behavior. To handle this, you must be able to find outlets or hobbies that can somehow maintain your health and thus, bringing back your self-confidence. To enjoy these activities, it is better to ask your children to join you. Another advantage would be a better family bonding.
Chance of indecent affairs
Most husbands are afraid to loose their macho image and sexual ego. Since their wives are not in their usual attractive physique anymore and care less for sex, they will try to find it on younger girls. They will join their male friends on night out gathering and start having indecent affairs. Although this may only be temporary, it can still distract the closeness within the family. Your children especially the girls, will loose respect on you and your hardships during their younger days will be taken for granted. So if you are getting tempted, think about your family and your dreams when you were just starting. Spending money for a family vacation is a better idea.
Lost appetite for work
Retirement age is getting near and you seem to be tired of doing the same work you have been doing for years. The wife may also feel the same way, and there will be no more excitement in improving your career. Since your children can already handle themselves, you may find no reason to work harder anymore. To prevent yourself in loosing interest in your job, remind yourself the days when you were enthusiastic to learn everything. Find other things that might fit in your interest like the Internet. Do not be afraid that you are now being left behind by technology. Remember that life is a daily journey. Working is like parenting; it is a non-stop learning process. You still have to be a role model to your children and community.
Life begins at forty only if your family is happy.
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How to know if You are a Potential Battered Wife
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Domestic violence is around the world and unfortunately, not all battered wives have the courage to report their husbands to the police. Although there are brave ones who fought back and send their husbands to jail, it is more important to know if you will be a potential battered wife someday. In this way, future wives can somehow prepare or better yet do something before anything worst happen. Here are some early signs that you should be aware of.
1.0 He is an alcoholic. A man who loves to drink too much and very frequently even by himself alone is considered an alcoholic person. This can affect his character towards anybody including you, as his wife. Time may come that he will hurt you if you try to stop him from drinking. The best advice is to consult him to a doctor immediately.
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Problems when you marry your Best Friend
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Many would think that marrying a best friend has a better chance to be successful, mainly because friends are like diamonds, they are forever. While this can be true, marriage is very much different with friendship. So before assuming that you are very lucky to be married to your best friend, I suggest you check out these potential problems that may arise.
Wrong feelings
It looks like very rewarding that you have the best of both worlds: friendship and love. However, you may be just confused with your feelings. Loving each other is totally different with being in love with each other. You have to talk about it seriously to make sure that you know what you will be up to. If you fail to do so, you will loose your best friend which is very painful.
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How to Add Fun and Laughter to your Marriage
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I wish I am rich instead of being handsome. I told this to my wife after learning the expenses of a minor operation I went through 2 weeks ago. She then smiles and somehow, I made her laugh deep inside. Basically, being funny is one of my outlets to be calm about problems. Please do not get me wrong, I am very serious about life. It is just that I think being funny sometimes makes me more relax and it adds life to our marriage. I also believe that you need not be a professional comedian to make your spouse laugh. With this, here are some of my ideas I am using and I think they will also be applicable to you:
1.0 Do weird things. To minimize loneliness when I was in Japan, I decided to have a picture of myself standing outside during the intense falling of snow, without a shirt! When my wife received it, I know I made her laugh and somehow she forgot that I am away. You can still think of other ways like imitating TV commercials. Do not think that you may look like a fool. After all, this is the real purpose. Remember, being in love is foolish.
2.0 Play in the rain. Enjoying the rain is not for children only. Feeling the cold raindrops on your head and body helps a lot to release stress. It will also bring back your younger days. Before realizing it, you are both laughing and playing like children. Do not mind if you will be the center of attraction of everybody as long as you do not hurt others. Moreover, it is better if you join your children. If there is no rain, you can use a normal size water hose and enjoy the fun at the garage.
3.0 Crack a joke. This is my favorite. Although according to my wife, most of them sounds corny I still insist. This is because I do believe that telling some funny stories is an effective way of maintaining good communication between spouses. No matter how tough marriage life is, jokes can somehow help to ease your mind from worries. In fact, you can easily think of a solution to a problem when you are in a happy mood.
4.0 Play board games. Although outdoor sports look fine and healthy, playing Snakes and Ladders and similar board games provides better bonding. Waiting for the dice to stop is like watching a suspense thriller film. There may even have times that trying to cheat the game adds the fun. Since you are seating beside each other, you can also add romance by saying some sweet nothings. Winning is not really your plan. It is the fun that you get that counts.
5.0 Watch comedy films. I do not need to mention any funny film because there are so many of them. You can also be a regular follower of a funny TV show. Regardless of the comedian, great comedy acts can be a good topic when there is a need to create funny surroundings. When you think fate is not on your side, recalling them can also somehow lead both of you to the positive vibes. Filipinos as they say can always find ways to make fun out of a controversial issue.
Sometimes, having fun can be a serious matter.
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What to do when your Spouse meets the Ex again
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It is common to most married couples to have previous relationships before they got married. But what if your spouse accidentally crossed paths with the former sweetheart again? Then, you learned that the Ex is not yet married and still available. The problem is you seem to lose your good physique while the former sweetheart looked better than before. Suddenly, the Ex becomes your neighbor or will be your spouse' office mate. You will start to be insecure, and you will be scared of what might happen next. So before making any stupid action, I suggest you view the tips below and hopefully can clear your mind.
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How to Maintain Good Communication with a Busy Husband
Being married to a very busy husband may weaken your marriage. This usually occurs when he is engaged with politics, business, or any career that requires a lot of time and social activities like blogging. Although he might say that he is working hard for the family and for the future of the children, this logic will not be true if you do not have a good communication. Therefore, you must find ways to bring back his attention to you and here are some tips that could help you.
1.0 Cook his favorite food. As they say, the way to win a man’s heart is through his stomach. Your husband may be very tired and exhausted when he gets home. It will be delightful to see that he will still wants join you at dinner time. Tell him in advance that you will cook his favorite dish and say in the most convincing way and make him excited to get home at once. Then, grab the chance to have a good talk and of course, not about his work. If he starts mentioning it, learn how to divert the topic by simply asking him how much he likes the food.
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