Worst Mistakes When You Get Married

Getting married with someone you really love makes you giggle and everything that surrounds you seems so wonderful. It looks like you will be enjoying for the rest of your life. However, marriage has its ups and downs and sometimes; we are the ones who make mistakes in the way we show our love. With this, let me share to you some of them that you must avoid.

Identity loss

There are people who are so much in love that they forget who they are. It is a nice feeling when we serve the one we love, and we always want to give all the best we can. But when you stop doing something good for yourself, then you are also starting to loose your own identity. It is not right to think that if you do it, your spouse will stop from loving you. In fact, keeping your identity will inspire your spouse to love you more.

Authority loss

Allowing your self to be controlled in everything that you do is not love. You should not be a slave in a marriage, and your spouse should not be always your master. You should use your right to speak up for your self and just follow all the instructions. Both of you should have the voice in making a decision. Do not give up your rights especially when raising your children. Marriage is not a one-man show, but rather a partnership in all aspects.

Over giving

Giving without expecting for a return is the best part of loving. In fact, this is the mystery of it. But forcing your self to give something that you can no longer give can be very harmful. Chances are you are spoiling your spouse and he will get used to it. Time will come that no matter what you give, it will still be insufficient and he will keep asking for more. Having no limit is like treating your spouse like a god. Anything that is too much can kill you.

Dependency

Having someone who will love you is a dream-come true. But this should not be your only dream. Marriage is not the only aspect in life one should enjoy. You also have to learn how to explore the world of reality. If you stop having other dreams in life besides being a better half, then your life will be revolving in one person only. Someday, you may have to live alone and you cannot do it because you already have lost your focus. Marriage is a union of two hearts.

Loving someone starts by loving oneself.


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Article Source: Happy Family Matters

12 comments:

  mon

May 27, 2008 at 6:58 AM

Yung taking someone for granted and ignoring things your partners is doing for you is another mistake.Too much jelousy can kill your relationship.Wala lang,share ko lang. hehehe

  Guardian Angel

May 27, 2008 at 5:43 PM

Worth to add, Mon. Thanks for the visit.

  Staci Rose

May 28, 2008 at 9:25 AM

A marriage, a partnership, a friendship - these are obvious words and yet they elude so many of us! Ironically, some of these concepts are in direct conflict with each other. The difficulty really lies in the balance! :) Great post.

  Guardian Angel

May 28, 2008 at 5:47 PM

Very well said, Stacey Rose.

However, I was just wondering where you found my blog. You seem to be have no widgets in your sidebar.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  Parents Overnight Blog

May 29, 2008 at 7:39 AM

Great, great, great post! I couldn't agree more with your points. Especially the one about not forgetting your identity and who you are. We often blame our spouse for changing us but it is up to you to remember who you are. In the end you spouse should love you for you. Keep it up. I'll be reading. Thanks!!!

  Guardian Angel

May 29, 2008 at 6:02 PM

Thanks for agreeing with me, Parents Overnight Blog.

I paid a visit to your blog and I think you're building a good community of parents. I think I will also visit often.

  Parents OvernightBlog

June 2, 2008 at 11:45 PM

Thank you for paying a visit. I will do my best to keep the content valuable and up to date. You seem to do this very well. I also look forward to people joining the community. Please feel free to join if you haven't already!

  Guardian Angel

June 3, 2008 at 5:49 AM

I will find time to join but I have some questions.

What community do you mean, BlogCatalog, Mybloglog or other social sites you belong to?

How can I join you community. Your blog has no widgets to identify your community.

I cannot even find any other pages in your horizontal pages like About me, Contact Me, etc.

Thanks.

  hangelbel

June 4, 2008 at 7:29 PM

Thanks for sharing. I believe in everything you said on your post. Those should be practiced by couples.

  Guardian Angel

June 4, 2008 at 9:00 PM

Thanks for believing in my post, Hangelbel. I really hope all couples and even singles follow them.

  theworkingmom

June 8, 2008 at 10:24 AM

Very well said :)

Joey
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  Guardian Angel

June 8, 2008 at 2:24 PM

Thanks, Doc Joey.