How to Make a Teenage Marriage Successful

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Teenage marriage has a bigger tendency of separation than those with the mature age, as they say. This may be true because marriage requires maturity and a lot of sacrifice. However, one must remember that there are a lot of marriages that end up nothing and the cause has nothing to do with age. Therefore, we can say that teenage marriage can also be successful. Just to make myself clear, I am not in favor of teenage marriages but if you are planning to marry at a very young age and it seems that nobody can stop you, the following tips are for you.

Do not marry because of the baby.

Let us say that something that should not happen has happened, and of course you have to keep the baby. If you are planning to get married just for the sake of the baby, forget it. Although many would disagree with me, I still insist that you should think twice first before getting married. You cannot cover up a mistake with a bigger mistake. Being not married to someone who have your child does not mean you cannot be a good parent. Marriage is a union of two people, who are deeply in love with each other with or without a child.

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8 comments:

  troubled teen

March 31, 2008 at 6:00 PM

its really true , teens must accept that when they are married they have to face responsibilities .. its not really the end of everything they can still go to school and hang out but when they our there they must always think that they have a partner and a family that needs them

  Guardian Angel

March 31, 2008 at 6:09 PM

Thanks for agreeing with me. Just hope all teenagers think the way you do.

  CastoCreations

April 1, 2008 at 11:16 AM

I think that you're right - age doesn't always matter and is a state of mind.

My little cousin met her fiance when she was in 9th grade and he was in 8th. They've been together ever since. And were engaged about a year and a half ago.

When he was 15 (she was 16) he was in a football accident and was paralized. From the neck down. I think most young women would say, thanks but no thanks. But not her.

She stayed with him - not letting him feel sorry for himself and making him do his exercises and therapy. She lifted him into the car and hauled his wheel chair. She supported him the same way a devoted wife would - at the age of 16 on!

Now she is 21 and transferred to his college so they could be together. They have their own apartment (with extra wide halls for his wheel chair) and progressing together like the wonderful couple they are. He is basically my cousin by default now. We are looking forward to the time when he will WALK down the aisle at their wedding (after they graduate).

My family was actually waiting for them to marry at age 18. :) It would not be my first piece of advice for most couples - but they are special and not like most couples. Teen or adult.

  Guardian Angel

April 1, 2008 at 6:43 PM

This is a very good sample of a wonderful love story of young couples.

I am pretty sure that they will have a brighter future as husband and wife.

Thanks for taking time to share this and hope many will learn from this.

  Rob

April 28, 2008 at 10:10 PM

Maybe this list should also include a tip #6.0: Expect difficulty.

Don't let anyone fool you - it is work. Sometimes it's anything but easy. Anything worth having or being a part of requires diligence and effort. Marriage requires far more self-sacrifice than you expect.

Marriage amplifies attitudes, so selfishness and carelessness can quickly lead to divorce. Patience, respect, & attentiveness are key elements to a loving & rewarding marriage.

  Guardian Angel

April 28, 2008 at 10:36 PM

Hi Rob,

You're right, it's really difficult to marry at a very young age.

With your follow-up tips, teens reading this post will think twice before getting into it.

Thanks for your effort.

  Rob

April 29, 2008 at 12:17 AM

Angel, I sure wouldn't want to discourage people from marrying. But I do encourage them to fully and seriously consider the long-term commitment that they're making. As the passion & romance of engagement & marriage gradually develops a patina, the real-world, day-to-day stuff can sometimes be tough to handle.

My wife & I are closing in on our 12th anniversary. Marriage for me has not always been as easy or simple as single life, but it's certainly been the most rewarding & joyous part of my entire life.

  Guardian Angel

April 29, 2008 at 6:22 AM

Hi Rob,

What a coincidence! I am also married for 12 long years and I definitely agree with your thoughts.

It is really very satisfying to be with someone you love.

Thanks.