How Parents can understand Teenagers

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Parenting teenagers is one of the hardest tasks of parents. But some teenagers do not realize this and they think they are not being understood. Although parents were once teenagers, some of them really find it hard to understand the younger generation. This is because most teenagers are aggressive, fast thinkers and sometimes careless. That is why parents should always be there to guide and understand them. But their generation gap seems to be a long bridge for them to travel and meet in the middle. So here are some tips on how parents should start.

Free them

The average age gap between parents and their teenagers is 25 years, and this is long enough in terms of music trends, lifestyle and technology. Youngsters love the latest fashion, gadgets and music that you may not appreciate. You do not have to force yourself to join them if you don’t want to. But let them feel the same excitement you felt when you were at their age. Allow them to be young and enjoy life. Free them by helping them to spread their wings and fly high.

Listen to them

Teenagers also have the right to be heard. You must now lower your voice, and open your ears. Although their voices are still small, they have fresh and bright ideas to share. Listening to their suggestions does not mean yours are now being left out, it only means that they are concern with what is happening around them. You should be proud because your teaching is now getting good results. Let them voice out their critical minds. After all, it is their future that is at stake.

Trust them

Teenagers are sensitive enough to know if they are being trusted or not. It may be quite hard to trust them because they are young. But if you will not trust them now, when will you trust them? We must let go of them slowly and let them be independent. Being overprotective does not mean we love them, it may also mean that we do not trust them. Teenagers are confused where they belong – older children or young adults? The way we trust them will be the answer. Let them fly but be ready to catch them when they fall.

Read them

There are teenagers who are not transparent in their words but in their image. They may be intelligent and creative, but their silence prevents them to shine. They are the ones who love to hide inside the closet. Some teenagers express their curiosity, anger and anxiety through music, tattoos and extreme fashion. With this, parents must be smart enough to read their actions. Just like babies, they need attention too. If you cannot understand teenagers, the society will not understand them either.

Swallow your pride

Before you could do all of the above, you should first swallow your pride. If you want to understand teenagers, visit their world wholeheartedly. Teenagers change their mind easily not because they are crazy but because they are full of dreams. They want to learn about everything through experience to prove that like adults, they have their own space in this world. After all, we were in their shoes once. They are not dangerous though. It is only us adults who puts them in danger.

If teenagers can rock, then we as parents must roll.

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Article Source: Happy Family Matters



May 26, 2008 at 5:27 AM

May I add- Know your children's weakness and strength. Be a friend and a parent at the same time. Create special moment as bonding time. our Dinner time is the best time for my family to discuss every ones concern no matter how trivial it was. I made our home the best place for them to hang.

  Guardian Angel

May 26, 2008 at 7:29 AM

Very true, Mon. Quality time is very important. We have the same principle in handling children. I also make sure that dinner is bonding time.

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  Elliott - 21st Century Dad

May 27, 2008 at 5:51 AM

As soon as you figure it out, they're adults and on their own already.

  Guardian Angel

May 27, 2008 at 6:31 AM

Very true Elliot. Time flies fast if you have teenagers. Thanks for dropping by.


May 29, 2008 at 8:14 AM

For some fun ways to communicate with your teenagers see my tips at

  Guardian Angel

May 29, 2008 at 6:06 PM

You're right, Jennifer. Your blog looks interesting. Thanks.


May 31, 2008 at 3:35 AM


nice blog!

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May 31, 2008 at 6:03 AM

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