When our young children start to wonder of the things they see, it also includes sex. They are intelligent individuals and asking questions about sexuality is nothing but normal. However, if the parents are not prepared to answer them, they will make their children even more confused. And here is what child experts would say:
1.0 Tell the right words without laughing, like “penis” and “vagina”. Never use confusing words like butterflies and flowers. There is nothing wrong with telling the truth.
2.0 Be literal and formal. Reproduction cannot easily be understood by younger children but you can teach them some technical words like uterus, egg and sperm cell meeting together and give some examples they can understand.
3.0 Emphasize that sex is sacred, that it is one way of couples showing love for each other and should only be done privately. Homosexuality is very difficult to explain to young children, but you can simply say that people are different from each other.
4.0 Teach your child how to take care of his/her sensitive parts, as well as personal hygiene. Your child should also understand he/she should not let other people see his/her private parts, maybe only by chance.
5.0 When your child already understands the news, you can explain to her how rape is different from sex, and how it can be avoided. Young girls should be taught how to sit properly, and do not allow them to pee just anywhere they want to. This goes with young boys too.
REMEMBER: Children cannot avoid being curious about sexuality. However it is our obligation as adults to guide them, and teaching them about sex without malice is very important.
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Sex Talk with Children
When to Allow our Children to Work
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1.0 It must be less important than school. If he has to sacrifice one of them, then it must be the work.
2.0 It must be decided by your child, not you or anyone else. Do not force or brainwash them to do it.
3.0 It must be balanced with play, proper exercise and rest. It is their right to grow as a normal child.
4.0 It must be safe and not be harmful to their health and development.
5.0 It must be supervised by an adult at all times and trials should be performed first.
6.0 It must not be beyond the capacity of your child.
7.0 It must be clear to him where his salary should go. Do not use your child to help your family needs.
8.0 It must not pressure him. If you think he cannot handle it anymore, let him stop.
9.0 It must be advantageous to him, not to his employer.
10.0 It must be with accordance with the law, complete with all the necessary documents and license if applicable.
Remember that it is our duty as parents to work for our children and NOT vice versa.
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How to Have the Best Nanny
Sometimes we need to have a nanny to help us in taking care of our children. Nannies are common in a family where the mother is working to earn a living. However, here are very important steps to be followed to have the best ones:
History
Nothing is better than to know her history and background. It is advisable to get from an agency rather than just someone who has been being recommended by a friend or neighbor. Though it may cost a bit, you can be sure that the nanny you got had passed the criteria a nanny must possessed. If she had past experiences, it would be better if you ask her previous employer about her performance. You can also verify her records from the police department or any other related government office. It is better that she is also a mother or has younger siblings that she took care of.
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Confession of a Smoking Parent
I admit, I am one of them, and I have no good reason to justify my smoking. I stopped many times but I am weak to temptation. After all that has been said about the bad effect of smoking, I still keep on doing it, and I hate myself for doing it. However, please allow me to share what I am doing about it:
1.0 I do not smoke inside our house, whether my children are there or not. After eating, as they are the best times to smoke, I go outside and far away to smoke and chew some refreshing gum to make my breath fresh when I got home.
2.0 I do not smoke in public places, and anywhere where there are other people especially children. Of course, there are no children allowed in a smoking area.
3.0 I regulated myself, ranging from 5 to 8 sticks of cigarettes a day; and I do not bring a lighter when I travel.
4.0 I do not smoke 1 hour before I go home, and chew some refreshing gum during the trip.
5.0 I am conscious of what I am doing. Believe it or not, but I am planning to stop, hopefully before I got sick.
Yes, I know that there is no such thing as responsible smoker. Again, I know I cannot justify my bad habit, and I welcome and will not delete all the bad comments you can give, but I will appreciate more if you will give me some inspirational tips.
To all people especially parents, I know I may not be in the right position to say this, but do not put aside your health as well as other people especially your children, follow the BEST TIP YET: DO NOT START!
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The Healthy Way to Cook Instant Noodles
I truly believe that good parenting also includes healthy cooking especially for our children...
TWO WAYS OF COOKING INSTANT NOODLES:
THE USUAL WAY:
1.0 Put the noodles into a pot with water.
2.0 Throw in the powder.
3.0 Let it cook for around 3 minutes.
Believe it or not, this is the WRONG method of cooking the instant noodles. By doing this, when we actually boil the ingredients in the powder, normally with MSG, it will change the molecular structures of the MSG causing it to be toxic.The other thing that you may or may not realized is that, the noodles are coated with wax and it will take around 4 to 5 days for the body to excrete the wax after you have taken the noodles.
UNUSUAL WAY: (THE HEALTHIER WAY)
1.0 Boil the noodles in a pot with water.
2.0 Once the noodles are cooked, take out the noodles, and throw away the water which contains WAX.
3.0 Boil another pot of water till boiling and put the noodles into the hot boiling water and then shut the fire.
4.0 While the water is very hot, put the ingredient with the powder into the water, to make noodle soup.
5.0 However, if you need dry noodles, take out the noodles and add the ingredient with the powder and toss it to get dry noodles.
SOMETIMES YOU MUST RESEARCH IF THE USUAL WAY IS THE CORRECT WAY!!!
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